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Realistically Speaking……… Kiki


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Realistically Speaking……… Kiki

Foods that promote Hair Growth

29 Nov

When it comes to healthy hair, it’s not just what you put on your tresses that count — it’s what you put in your body, too.

“Lather, rinse, repeat” may be standard advice, but shampoo and conditioner alone won’t give you the healthy hair you crave. For the most luxurious locks possible, you’ll need to step out of the shower, and into the kitchen.

“Your hair grows about 1/4 to 1/2 inch every month, and the foundation of all of our new hair, skin, and nail growth is the nutrients we eat,” says Dawn Jackson Blatner, RD, a Chicago-based dietitian. “If you eat a healthy diet, you will grow stronger and healthier cells throughout your entire body — inside and out.”

If you were born with fine, thin hair, you’ll never have rope-thick tresses — no matter what you eat — but a well-balanced diet that includes plenty of growth-promoting protein and iron can make a difference, say nutrition and hair experts.

And beware of dietary supplements often marketed to thicken hair or make it grow faster. They may backfire.

“Even though you can find beauty supplements on the shelves of most stores, try to get the nutrients you need from foods whenever possible,” Paradi Mirmirani, MD, a dermatologist in Vallejo, Calif., tells WebMD. “In rare instances, excess supplementation of certain nutrients, such as vitamin A, has been linked to hair loss.”

Read on for the 10 top foods that should be the foundation of your healthy hair diet.

Healthy Hair Food No. 1: Salmon
When it comes to foods that pack a beauty punch, it’s hard to beat salmon. Loaded with omega-3 fatty acids, this high-quality protein source is also filled with vitamin B-12 and iron.

“Essential omega-3 fatty acids are needed to support scalp health,” says Andrea Giancoli, MPH, RD, a dietitian in Los Angeles and a spokeswoman for the American Dietetic Association. “A deficiency can result in a dry scalp and thus hair, giving it a dull look.”

Vegetarian? Include one or two tablespoons of ground flaxseed in your daily diet for some plant-based omega-3 fats.

Healthy Hair Food No. 2: Dark Green Vegetables
Popeye the Sailor Man didn’t eat all that spinach for healthy hair, but he could have. Spinach, like broccoli and Swiss chard, is an excellent source of vitamins A and C, which your body needs to produce sebum. The oily substance, secreted by your hair follicles, is the body’s natural hair conditioner.

Dark green vegetables also provide iron and calcium.

Healthy Hair Food No. 3: Beans
Beans, beans, they’re good for your … hair?

Yes, it’s true. Legumes like kidney beans and lentils should be an important part of your hair-care diet. Not only do they provide plentiful protein to promote hair growth, but ample iron, zinc, and biotin. While rare, biotin deficiencies can result in brittle hair.

Blatner, who is also a spokeswoman for the American Dietetic Association, recommends three or more cups of lentils or beans each week.

Healthy Hair Food No. 4: Nuts
Do you go nuts for thick, shiny hair? You should.

Brazil nuts are one of nature’s best sources of selenium, an important mineral for the health of your scalp.

Walnuts contain alpha-linolenic acid, an omega-3 fatty acid that may help condition your hair. They are also a terrific source of zinc, as are cashews, pecans, and almonds. A zinc deficiency can lead to hair shedding, so make sure nuts are a regular on your healthy hair menu.

Healthy Hair Food No. 5: Poultry
Chickens and turkeys may have feathers, but the high-quality protein they provide will help give you the healthy hair you crave.

“Without adequate protein or with low-quality protein, one can experience weak brittle hair, while a profound protein deficiency can result in loss of hair color,” Giancoli tells WebMD.

Poultry also provides iron with a high degree of bioavailability, meaning your body can easily reap its benefits.

Healthy Hair Food No. 6: Eggs
When it comes to healthy hair, it doesn’t matter whether you like your eggs scrambled, fried, or over easy. However they’re served up, eggs are one of the best protein sources you can find.

They also contain biotin and vitamin B-12, which are important beauty nutrients.

Healthy Hair Food No. 7: Whole Grains
Sink your teeth into hearty whole grains, including whole-wheat bread and fortified whole-grain breakfast cereals, for a hair-healthy dose of zinc, iron, and B vitamins.

A whole-grain snack can also be a great go-to food when your energy is zapped halfway through the afternoon, and you’ve still got hours to go before dinner.

Healthy Hair Food No. 8: Oysters
Oysters may be better known for their reputation as an aphrodisiac, but they can also lead to healthy hair — and who doesn’t love that?

The key to their love and hair-boosting abilities is zinc — a powerful antioxidant.

If oysters don’t make a regular appearance on your dinner plate, don’t despair. In addition to getting it from whole grains and nuts, you can also get zinc from beef and lamb.

Healthy Hair Food No. 9: Low-Fat Dairy Products
Low-fat dairy products like skim milk and yogurt are great sources of calcium, an important mineral for hair growth. They also contain whey and casein, two high-quality protein sources.

For some healthy hair foods “to-go,” try throwing a yogurt or cottage cheese cup in your bag when you head out in the morning to snack on later in the day. You can even boost their hair benefits by stirring in a couple of tablespoons of ground flaxseeds or walnuts for omega-3 fatty acids and zinc.

Healthy Hair Food No. 10: Carrots
Carrots are an excellent source of vitamin A, which promotes a healthy scalp along with good vision.

Since a healthy scalp is essential for a shiny, well-conditioned head of hair, you’d be wise to include carrots in your diet as snacks or toppings on your salad.
When it comes to foods for healthy hair and beauty, variety is the best way to go.

“An overall balanced diet of lean proteins, fruits, and vegetables, whole grains, legumes, fatty fish like salmon and low-fat dairy will help keep hair healthy,” Giancoli says.

If you’re tempted to drop pounds fast with the latest fad diet, it could leave you with less-than-healthy hair — along with a growling stomach. Low-calorie diets are often low in some of the most important nutrients for healthy hair, including omega-3 fatty acids, zinc, and vitamin A. In addition to stunting hair growth and leading to dullness, super-low calorie plans may even cause hair loss.

“Crash diets can affect the hair cycle,” Mirmirani tells WebMD. “Losing a significant amount of weight in a short amount of time can affect that normal hair rhythm. Two to three months later, you might notice a significant increase in shedding. This is a temporary problem that you recover from with a well-rounded diet.”

Source: WebMD


Realistically Speaking……… Kiki

2014….My year in review

16 Nov


I realized that I haven’t written much this year on this blog. Not that I didn’t have much to say. I allowed the opinions of others stop me from from being myself. So I started keeping my feelings to a limit or not expressing them at all which I can say has caused me great distress.  To keep everything all bottled up and caused other issues elsewhere.  I have always battled with depression.  It’s been a lifelong battle and for awhile I had it under control. Them I noticed it coming more often and taking longer to release….and I’m miserable.  So much so, I have gained so much weight, I’ve never in my life been this big and I have no energy or desire to change it.

Lord…..you know.

Well, hopefully this is start to letting go and new beginnings.

Realistically speaking……….Kiki

Realistically Speaking……… Kiki

Haircare underneath your weaves..

21 Aug

I have been a licensed stylist for the past 13 years…I have encountered so many people over those years with scalp problems that could have or can be avoided. As you may know, most of my clientele is weaves and other extensions. I notice that women take the time to pick out the best hair, the best style and anything else pertaining to the best look they can have with a weave.
My problem is why do you take all that time doing that when you wont even wash your hair underneath the weave? Or, people wont make sure their foundation is dry..only the top hair. When I go to take it down it is so sour and mildew has set up on the scalp. Have you ever seen mildew on a persons scalp? I have..its not pretty.
Now excuse me but I can smell your hair and I’m sure your husband, significant other, cat or dog can too. Im sure they don’t like it and you are not getting the affection you need from them because your head stinks….bad. Here are a few tips for care of your natural hair and the extensions. Hope this helps some of you.

Maintaining the Health of Your Own Hair While Wearing a Weave

Some people leave a one-inch or less perimeter of their own hair out that they use to blend in with their extensions to achieve a natural look. Take these steps in order to keep your own hair moisturized, cared for, and protected while you weave it up.

Blend your “leave out” hair to match the texture of your weave with as little heat, product, and manipulation as possible. It is not necessary to relax your leave out depending on how much is left out. Most people have textures that require very little heat to straighten. I recommend flat twisting your perimeter hair or a simple pull back. For more hold – use a alcohol free foam wrap (ie: narobi wrap and shine foam) on top of your leave-in.
Moisturize your braided hair by putting natural oils or moisturizers into a nozzle-tipped applicator bottle and applying it directly to your scalp through the holes of the net. I use extra virgin olive oil..it can be found in the grocery store.
Pay close attention your “leave out” hair making sure to moisturize it day and night paying special attention to your edges. If you must, brush your edges with a toothbrush or a small barber brush to avoid hair loss – just try it.
Protect your hair at night by using a satin bonnet, scarf, headband, or pillowcase. Protect your nape by day by keeping a silk scarf or smooth pashmina shawl around your neck to avoid rubbing from coats, turtlenecks, and wool scarves. The top of certain coats tend to rub our hair of the back of our heads, covering your coats will help eliminate that.

Caring for Your Weave

Treat your weave hair as well as you would treat your own hair or in most cases….better. You will need a coated bristle paddle brush and a seamless detangling comb to keep your kinky curly weave looking tight. Or a a nice scarf, silk rollers for straighter styles.
Detangle kinky-curly hair by conditioner washing it in the shower at least once or twice per week. Washing your hair in the shower is the easiest  I believe. Use a nice conditioner without alot of additives such as alcohol/sulfates and comb through it with your big detangling comb. Rinse the conditioner out while brushing through it carefully from the ends working your way up.
Try to get your weave completely dry by sitting under a hood dryer until completely dry.
Please dont wear a dirty weave – shampoo your weave often to remove product buildup, if you have quality hair washing your weave should not be a problem at all.

Do not vigorously shampoo your tracks or rub them together. When washing, gently smooth diluted shampoo from the weft down to the ends and rinse water through it using the same fluid motion. Try to avoid getting shampoo trapped under your net. If you want to make sure your scalp is being cleansed underneath the net try spraying some Seabreeze on your scalp a few minutes prior to washing. This helps to cleanse the scalp. If you scalp feels itchy, try Organic Root Stimulator Herbal Cleanse Dry Shampoo to freshen up.

I try not to put ANY product on my extensions after washing them. To me no product or very little product makes the style last and keeps the hair looking fresh.


Hopefully this helps those of you that dont think you should wash your hair while wearing a weave. DO IT>>>>IT IS VER NECESSARY!!!



Realistically Speaking……….Kiki

Realistically speaking. ….

9 Jun

It’s been such a long time since I have written anything on here. I decided to take a break. Mainly because my thoughts and feelings on here for some reason makes people feel some type of way.  I don’t write to evoke feelings from other’s.  I write to let my feelings out. Its my therapy and it’s free.  So.
I have many things to publish. …Be patient with me.  I’ll get it all uploaded soon.

Talk to y’all later. 

Realistically Speaking……… Kiki


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