Haircare underneath your weaves..

21 Aug

I have been a licensed stylist for the past 13 years…I have encountered so many people over those years with scalp problems that could have or can be avoided. As you may know, most of my clientele is weaves and other extensions. I notice that women take the time to pick out the best hair, the best style and anything else pertaining to the best look they can have with a weave.
My problem is why do you take all that time doing that when you wont even wash your hair underneath the weave? Or, people wont make sure their foundation is dry..only the top hair. When I go to take it down it is so sour and mildew has set up on the scalp. Have you ever seen mildew on a persons scalp? I have..its not pretty.
Now excuse me but I can smell your hair and I’m sure your husband, significant other, cat or dog can too. Im sure they don’t like it and you are not getting the affection you need from them because your head stinks….bad. Here are a few tips for care of your natural hair and the extensions. Hope this helps some of you.

Maintaining the Health of Your Own Hair While Wearing a Weave

Some people leave a one-inch or less perimeter of their own hair out that they use to blend in with their extensions to achieve a natural look. Take these steps in order to keep your own hair moisturized, cared for, and protected while you weave it up.

Blend your “leave out” hair to match the texture of your weave with as little heat, product, and manipulation as possible. It is not necessary to relax your leave out depending on how much is left out. Most people have textures that require very little heat to straighten. I recommend flat twisting your perimeter hair or a simple pull back. For more hold – use a alcohol free foam wrap (ie: narobi wrap and shine foam) on top of your leave-in.
Moisturize your braided hair by putting natural oils or moisturizers into a nozzle-tipped applicator bottle and applying it directly to your scalp through the holes of the net. I use extra virgin olive oil..it can be found in the grocery store.
Pay close attention your “leave out” hair making sure to moisturize it day and night paying special attention to your edges. If you must, brush your edges with a toothbrush or a small barber brush to avoid hair loss – just try it.
Protect your hair at night by using a satin bonnet, scarf, headband, or pillowcase. Protect your nape by day by keeping a silk scarf or smooth pashmina shawl around your neck to avoid rubbing from coats, turtlenecks, and wool scarves. The top of certain coats tend to rub our hair of the back of our heads, covering your coats will help eliminate that.

Caring for Your Weave

Treat your weave hair as well as you would treat your own hair or in most cases….better. You will need a coated bristle paddle brush and a seamless detangling comb to keep your kinky curly weave looking tight. Or a a nice scarf, silk rollers for straighter styles.
Detangle kinky-curly hair by conditioner washing it in the shower at least once or twice per week. Washing your hair in the shower is the easiest  I believe. Use a nice conditioner without alot of additives such as alcohol/sulfates and comb through it with your big detangling comb. Rinse the conditioner out while brushing through it carefully from the ends working your way up.
Try to get your weave completely dry by sitting under a hood dryer until completely dry.
Please dont wear a dirty weave – shampoo your weave often to remove product buildup, if you have quality hair washing your weave should not be a problem at all.

Do not vigorously shampoo your tracks or rub them together. When washing, gently smooth diluted shampoo from the weft down to the ends and rinse water through it using the same fluid motion. Try to avoid getting shampoo trapped under your net. If you want to make sure your scalp is being cleansed underneath the net try spraying some Seabreeze on your scalp a few minutes prior to washing. This helps to cleanse the scalp. If you scalp feels itchy, try Organic Root Stimulator Herbal Cleanse Dry Shampoo to freshen up.

I try not to put ANY product on my extensions after washing them. To me no product or very little product makes the style last and keeps the hair looking fresh.

 

Hopefully this helps those of you that dont think you should wash your hair while wearing a weave. DO IT>>>>IT IS VER NECESSARY!!!

 

 

Realistically Speaking……….Kiki

Realistically speaking. ….

9 Jun

It’s been such a long time since I have written anything on here. I decided to take a break. Mainly because my thoughts and feelings on here for some reason makes people feel some type of way.  I don’t write to evoke feelings from other’s.  I write to let my feelings out. Its my therapy and it’s free.  So.
I have many things to publish. …Be patient with me.  I’ll get it all uploaded soon.

Talk to y’all later. 
Kiki

Realistically Speaking……… Kiki

MSR Online | The Voice of the Twin Cities African American Community » Hair entrepreneur hooks up clients with esteem-building styles

15 May

http://www.spokesman-recorder.com/2013/09/04/hair-entrepreneur-hooks-up-clients-with-esteem-building-styles/

Realistically Speaking……… Kiki

Its real……..

10 Oct

So many people are lost right now….not just from the economy, their financial situations,personal life or homelife. Lost From birth. Some people are born lost…unsure of the light that is within themselves so they walk through life in a misguided journey…or so they think. Our steps are ordered. Every pain,hurt or emotion you feel is all by design. I believe that. It is the will of the Father to make you strong and withstand the fight that is before you.

Depression is real. It is a gift from the Devil. I believe this. God does not cause confusion or misery. The devil does that. So many people are at a point in their lives where they are hurting from deep in their insides. A place where nobody can get to,so far inside they lost the way to remove it,a place where they want to be free from.

We misuse each other, take for granted each others feelings,so many snakes live in the grass that we’re scared to walk through to reality. Life has beat us down so bad and there is no support for those who carry the world on their shoulders.
Sitting around crying at night not knowing where the hurt began or if it will ever end. We have this cover/cape over us or wall (or at least we think we do), that is attracting those people who are hurtful to us bcuz we wear our heart on our sleeves. It’s on your shoulder…bleeding, barely pumping. Those who are predators see the weakness in our hearts and use that…thereby hurting us again. Some of us can take those constant hurts and keep going, but then their are some of us who can’t get past them. It hurts too much and it wasn’t enough time between this hurt and the last one. 

Depression is real……its a way the enemy tries to dim your light. The light that God gave you when you were born unto this ungodly place. That’s when the thoughts of suicide come. They say cut ur light off, everyone will be better off. They won’t have you to kick around no more, you won’t have to hurt no more……nobody cares about you anyway. So you believe it……and you cut ur light off. Ending your hurt, ending your sadness, your pain is no more bcuz you ended your life. 
But guess what…..ur pain is everlasting because you took a life that did not belong to you.

Depression is real……..It’s natural to feel like suicide is the answer. I know its something I believe a lot of us go through….but when those thoughts consume you…..when those thoughts are everyday, every minute, every second…..at this particular time is when if ur a believer….God can come in a save you. Change ur way of thinking, heal the wounds and cover you in His blanket of true love. Love that is a comfort to your soul. You hold ur head up, even though it hurts you smile anyway. Give ur problems to the Lord for him to fix and don’t take them back by worrying bout it. So when you encounter people who are “going through” or depressed, down in their spirit…..try to give them a little PEACE= PROVIDE EMPATHY AND COMPASSION EVERYDAY.

Connecting and Breaking Soulties

27 May

I was reflecting on my personal life and how it was so easy to get into certain situations. How you would think that you can just walk away from them but it seems like your heart wont let certain people go….its like they are embedded in your soul.
Have you ever wondered why that is?
How do you get somebody out of your spirit? How do you release them from your heart chains?
When we get into intimate relationships with people, confess our deepest feelings, show our true emotions, we are creating soul ties. These ties are also created when we marry…..surprisingly they do not release with the act of divorce. The divorce is really a piece of worthless paper unless the two express the desire to release each other from their connection.
I’m referencing a marriage because the bible talks of marriage and the soul tie.
SOUL TIES…….wow, the name of it just does something to me. Its scary. The past year especially I have been speaking about Soul Ties. Now I dont profess to be a saint by any means. Even in my backslidden (?) position I am still a believer in the Word of God. I look to the Word at times of uncertainty, precarious or unrest. I have been researching this topic biblically. Realistically, I am binded by demons created by soul ties from previous relationships. I am seeking to let those go NOW so that my spirit can rest easily and I can go forward in my walk into righteousness and the pursuit of the Truth. This is the beginning of change. And I now see that I had to get to a place ALONE so that message can be received correctly. And ALONE I am…….my heart is open……and afraid. Smh.

 What are soul ties? A soul tie is an emotional bond or connection that unites you with someone else. You can become bound to a person through your soul. This can be created through the sexual or intimate act between 2 people.

 Have you found yourself tormented or constantly hounded by thoughts about a person, always wondering about them, checking on them, contacting them or reminiscing about them? If so, you have soul ties. Have you grieved over a severed relationship with someone you were once close to or a physical relationship you no longer have? If so, you have soul ties.Soul ties are formed through close friendships, through vows (marriage), commitments and promises (such as: I wont love anyone else but you, or I promise to love you forever and so on) , and through physical intimacy. Not all soul ties are bad. God wants us to have healthy relationships that build us up, provide wisdom, and give godly counsel.

God will strategically bring good relationships into our lives to form healthy soul ties. There are also Unhealthy soul ties and those are to be broken, thrown away and removed. Hopefully by envoking the Blood of Jesus to wash it away. Amen.

 I found this online. Found it to be applicable.

Breaking of a Tie; Becoming One Instead of Two

There is a traumatic effect when an intimate relationship is broken. It is one of the most painful experiences one may endure. That intimate “connecting” goes to the very depths of one’s heart and soul. When there is a “tearing”, it can greatly disrupt the entire life of a person.The Bible says, “By faith we understand that the worlds were FRAMED by the Word of God…” (Hebrews 11:3). When something is “framed”, like a picture, it is “put together” and made complete. The framed picture becomes something different from the pieces that make it up. It becomes something new. The framed picture is now the whole, while the photo, the wood, glue and nails have lost their own identity as separate pieces. As we look closer at the picture frame, we see connections or “bridges” between the four corner joints. In a relationship, these bridges are called “soul-ties”. They tie the husband and wife together. No longer are they identified as individuals, but “…the TWO shall become ONE…” (Ephesians 5:31). They have become something new, a family.There are countless relationships that have been “legally” broken where one spouse can’t help being drawn back to the other spouse. That’s because their souls are still tied to their former spouse or lover. Another situation is where a spouse is unable to give himself or herself fully to the other. The problem is a “scattered soul”. Both of these situations are caused from soul-ties that have never been broken. Even though a soul-tie that existed by law was broken when the marriage certificate was cancelled as a result of a certificate of divorce, there still must be a breaking or separating of the soul and spirit.For the sake of discussion, the terms, “soul-tie”, “double-minded”, “scattered soul” and “divided soul” will be used interchangeably.A “double-minded” person is a person with a divided soul (See James 1:8). When one’s soul is divided, “…let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord” (James 1:7). We can give and give and give into our marriage but it seems as though we get very little in return. HAVING A SCATTERED, DIVIDED SOUL, AFFECTS OUR RECEIVING, NOT OUR GIVING. “For let not that man suppose that he will RECEIVE anything…” (James 1:7). When our soul is divided, it affects our receiving, not our giving. We may wonder why we can’t receive the love and affection from our spouse that we so desperately need. They tell us that they love us, but somehow it’s not getting through to us. We then conclude, because of our inability to receive, that our spouse is not really “giving” us the affection we need. Untold marriages have unnecessarily failed because of this very reason.We can see how this seriously affects our trust for the other person. They say they love us, but because we are unable to receive that love, we unconsciously deem them untrustworthy because we are not receiving what they say they are giving. You can see how a person who is double-minded has relationship problems, including their relationship with God.The Bible says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ASK of God, who gives…” (James 1:5). Because we can’t receive what we ask for, we believe that it has never been given, when in fact, it has. So our receiving or rather our inability to receive is based on our soul being tied to someone. In other words, we receive from the person with whom we have soul-ties. A soul-tie is a connection of the heart (See Hebrews 4:12). There are good soul-ties and bad soul-ties. There are soul-ties that produce life in us, and there are soul-ties that produce death in us. God wants us to break the soul-ties that produce death.(Ref: Tiffany Buckner-The examiner. Com)

What are your thoughts?

Realistically Speaking………..Kiki

Permanent Things with Temporary People

10 May

They say when you know better, you do better. I believe that is not the case for most people. Myself included.  I know better, I have yet to do better. Sitting here shaking my head at myself.

Whats the problem you ask? Well, I do permanent things with temporary people causing prolonged feelings of anger and resentment.   I am truly looking to get to the bottom of this illness I have. I have been in a constant battle. The battle is with myself. Asking myself…”Why you say that?”…The answer, put as simply as possible: I must be in a battle between what I need, what I want and what I accept. Its craziness, lunacy and psychotic.
I have always thought of myself as someone who looks for the long term return instead of the short term profit. But it seems that I have been doing alot of self sabotage. Especially with the people that I keep in my personal life. Is this a way to keep myself from having to deal with people in a trusting and committed relationship? Or am I truly scared to succeed?

I dont know. ..but I know I need some help.

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